SIGNS YOU SHOULD DUMP HIM/HER

Keep yourself safe and out of an unhealthy relationship.  Watch for these telltale signs of trouble.  Should one or any of these appear, it’s time to re-evaluate, be truthful with yourself, and take the appropriate action.

JEALOUSY

Pay heed to if he/she becomes irrational when you interact with others, and the time spent with them. Be mindful if anger appears when you speak to the opposite sex, and accusations of cheating are voiced.  Are they demanding to know private details of your life?

INTENSITY

Displaying excessive charm. Lying to cover up insecurities. An immediate need to “win over’ your friends and family. Over the top gestures that seem like “too much” too soon. Are you bombarded with phone calls, texts, and emails in a short time? Is there insistence that you “get serious” immediately?

CONTROL

Telling you how to wear your hair, what to wear, when to speak or what to think. Showing up uninvited at your home, job/school. Are they checking your phone, emails, Facebook and/or going through your belongings? Do they follow you, sexually coercing you or make you feel bad about yourself?

ISOLATION

Is it insisted you only spend time with him/her, making you emotionally or psychologically dependent? Are you prevented from seeing your family or friends, going to school or work?

CRITICISM 

Calling you overweight, ugly, stupid, or crazy and/or ridiculing your beliefs, ambitions, family and friends is inexcusable behavior. Telling you he/she is the only one who really cares about you. Brain-washing you to feel worthless.

SABOTAGE 

Are you made to miss work, school, tests, interviews, or competitions by fights or meltdowns or getting sick? Does he/she break up with you or hide your keys/wallet, textbooks, phone? Do they steal your belongings?

BLAME 

Are you made to feel guilty for their behavior?  Are you or the world blamed for their problems?  Is everything, “your fault”?

ANGER

Overreacting to small problems. Frequently loses control, violent outbursts. Severe mood swings, drinking/partying when upset. Does he/she make threats, picks fights? Is a history of violent behavior making you fearful?

If your partner threatens or physically abuses you which includes pushing or shoving, there is NO justification, and it will only get worse.  Tell your family and call the national domestic abuse hotline immediately.

If your partner threatens or physically abuses you which includes pushing or shoving, there is NO justification and it will only get worse.  Tell you family and call the national domestic abuse hotline immediately.

 

FOR HELP:  1-800-799-SAFE

This is provided by someone who suffered in a dangerously abusive nightmare for 20 long years, and my goal is to avert others from suffering the same fate.